Another reader question!
Dear Your Polite Friend,
I recently got married. My friend "John" says I should tell my ex who I haven't spoken to beyond "hello" in over 2 years. My ex & "John" are friends, so I suspect he doesn't want to be the one to break the news. Do I owe it to my ex? If so, how do I tell them?
Dear Reader,
Congrats on the marriage. I hope you had a great wedding & got your thank you notes out in a timely manner. In response to your question: No, you do not have to tell your ex anything. If you have not spoken to them in over 2 years, telling them now will seem out of the blue at best, & at worst look like you are rubbing it in their face.
Thanks to social media it is likely your ex already knows you are married, either on their time line or someone else told them. Either way, it is not your problem.
I am not sure why "John" assumes you owe your ex anything, but I think your suspicions about not wanting to break the news are correct. "John" should mind his own business & realize that everyone here is an adult who has moved on with their life. Maybe "John" has always hoped you two might get back together & all three of you be friends in some kind of sitcom sort of way.
That's all for now friends. Please keep checking back for more etiquette tips & questions answered & feel free to write in with any questions!
XOXOXO
Your Amie Polie (That's Polite Friend in French-Talk)
No comments:
Post a Comment